“When you stop comparing yourself to others, you can achieve great things”
- Wheelchair
athlete Dean Furness –
It's natural to compare ourselves to others, but the problem comes when
we obsess over our shortcomings. Constantly comparing yourself to others has
major flaws. It lowers our self-esteem and we start to feel bad about
ourselves.
We seem to be measured almost all our lives. When we were babies with
our heights and weights, and as we grew, it became our speed and our strength.
And even at school, there are test results and today with our salaries and job
performance. It seems as if these personal averages are almost always used to
measure where we are compared to our peers. And I think we should look at it a
little differently. That personal average is just that, it's something very
personal and it's for you, and I think if you focus on that and work to build
it, you can really start to achieve some really amazing things.
So when you're comparing yourself to everyone else, remember that these
people aren't perfect... no one is. They don't have it all figured out. They
also have bad times and don't always look that great, but you don't usually see
that side.
So the next time you start comparing yourself to others, remember
that we are all human and go through the same good times and bad times as
everyone else.
If you feel like
everyone around you has more than you or what you think is a great life, just
know that YOUR life is not going to get better by being bitter.Be thankful for
what you DO have and the great qualities you DO have. Then focus on what you
CAN do to get to the life you deserve and what you will achieve if you keep
going for it. Just don't do it because someone else has it.
Everyone has
something they struggle with and it can be seen, maybe not, but take a little
time and focus on yourself instead of others and then you can win more challenges
and really start so many great things.
